To succeed in life you must have achieved high levels of emotional intelligence. And although many people can exhibit high levels of emotional intelligence in their business and work environment they can lack severely in their personal relationships. In my previous article I define emotional intelligence as a pattern of competencies in the areas of awareness of, self-control, the ability to clearly express emotions and handle interpersonal relationships rationally and with compassion. High levels of emotional intelligence should be exhibited in both professional and personal relationships.
As therapist we learn to listen closely to each individual we counsel. What you will find is that you being to see patterns and create a tapestry of ideologies and methods in which you will treat clients. What I have found hand’s down when counseling couples is that at the core men need to feel respected and women need to feel safe. For women to have their man feel respected. Men feel respected when you acknowledge them in the following:
Marriage changes everything. When couples meet, fall in love, later swear their lover for each other forever, hard work begins. It is after the wedding when the forever begins that couples need to keep their ax to the grind. The idea of easy peazy ‘happily ever’ after is a total farce. A bill of good we were sold when we were four years old and we bought in hook and sinker.