Couples look forward to starting their family. It is soon after that they learn the complication of raising a family, but it is not until their children hit adolescence that they become fully aware of the difficulties of parenting. Learning to implement emotionally intelligent parenting early on is imperative. It is typically in the family setting that children learn behaviors such as coping mechanisms, appropriate behaviors, values, morals and the like. With all the time parents deposit in their children it often seems wasted when children get into their adolescent years. How often have I heard parents say “who is this person?” or “what did they do to my child?” It is during adolescence that parents may have marital problems or problems in co-parenting because each parent may not have the same idea in raising a teenage child.
To succeed in life you must have achieved high levels of emotional intelligence. And although many people can exhibit high levels of emotional intelligence in their business and work environment they can lack severely in their personal relationships. In my previous article I define emotional intelligence as a pattern of competencies in the areas of awareness of, self-control, the ability to clearly express emotions and handle interpersonal relationships rationally and with compassion. High levels of emotional intelligence should be exhibited in both professional and personal relationships.
Emotional Intelligence (EI) has been a source of interest in the world of psychology (Edward Thorndike) and sociology (Charles Darwin and Herbert Spencer) since the 1930’s. Both Thorndike, Darwin and Spencer questioned the intelligence quotient (IQ) convinced that it could not be an accurate evaluation of intelligence. Their belief was that because environment, exposure, culture, education and parents educational level plays a significant role on an individual’s intelligence there will always be a disparity with this intelligence quotient instrument.